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Holidays Wrapped in Unconditional Love

Is minimal stress during the holidays possible?

As I considered the concept of holiday stress, I came across this article written by Dr. Charles Fay (Dec. 14, 2023), emailed through the Love and Logic Insiders Club.

I believe in and adhere to the Love and Logic parenting program. I think the principles make a lot of sense. Parents often find the strategies user-friendly and very helpful. Habits are hard to break so when I add some parent coaching and strategizing, this team approach can produce amazing results with children.

Children need structure and boundaries, especially during the excitement of holiday celebrations. Sometimes parents tend to go overboard and then wonder why their children act so entitled. This can be frustrating and disappointing for parents who put so much into wanting to make the holidays special. It can put a damper on the holiday. 

I recommend reading the following article by Dr. Fay. Hopefully, you will find the ideas presented to be valuable and inspire a more joyful holiday for you.

Recommendations for a Love and Logic Holiday:

Holiday seasons tend to bring more sources of stress than other times of the year.
These can range from the usual financial strains and high expectations among family
members, to chaotic world events. On top of these is one stress that always arises
for many parents—finding just the right holiday gifts for their children.

Have you noticed how much effort some parents put into finding holiday gifts for their
kids? I bet you know someone who doesn’t think twice about spending endless
hours—or even days—scouring the Internet for that perfect gift that their child has
been wanting.

Let’s think about it. Is there anything wrong with this? What’s the problem with
spending lots of time and energy looking for neat and nifty gifts for our kids? Nothing.
However, what happens when we exert more energy finding those gifts than showing
our youngsters how much of a gift they are to us?

Unfortunately, I’ve done this too. I’ve also fallen into the trap and worn myself out
trying to make things so perfect that I’ve forgotten the most perfect gift of all—the
expression of never-ending, unconditional love.

We’re all wired to need it. All of us yearn for a relationship with someone who will
love us forever, regardless of how stinky we behave. Isn’t this the greatest gift we can
give our loved ones? Isn’t this what the holiday season is truly about?

During this holiday season, try to keep the following in mind:

  • Spend more time playing with your kids than you spend shopping for them
  • Remember that the gift they really yearn for is you
  • Hug them and smile into their eyes as often as possible
  • Show them through your never-ending, unconditional love what a precious gift they are

Unconditional love is at the core of Love and Logic. As Love and Logic parents, we
teach our kids to be responsible for their behaviors and we do it by giving them
constant, unconditional love, regardless of whether they make good choices or poor
choices. That’s a gift that will last a lifetime for them.

I wish you Happy Holidays wrapped with unconditional love!